Posted on April 17, 2010.
Step-parents and families ... HELP (a little long)? Ok .. So, my bf (2 years together) and I took the kids on family vacation for the first time ... (Aged 9 mines, twins, a boy and girl .. age of 17 and 14 two boys) ...
BF and I presented the children slowly last year and spend two weekends a month with all the children .. other times, his children and myself with BF or just me and the BF ... We had a difficult year it first - because a lot of time with plans that each of us with children have been offset by BF - I think because he was worried about his children do not want to do " ... or at least that's what I take now.
This family holiday has its good moments, but overall it was a disaster .. Her children prefer video games and sitting in a hotel or simply the pool and eating out to actually doing much ... and I understand they are teenagers and we tried to reflect some .. My kids are kind of active translation (if I'm honest means - a little hyper, always on the road, asking lots of questions, be goofy, high energy level, etc.) ... then keep my children in a hotel room leads to boredom, even with games and art supplies I brought ... they are more than one television / movie / video game family .. we are more a lets go do something ..
Now, age is a factor .. We have done everything and have fun for a few hours of snow tubing ... but he wanted us against them thing and not a family holiday. I take my children to the mountain every year and we have several people to come with us - it was the only time in four years that is was a mess.
BF and I love each other .. much we have much in common. We come from the same region, we grew up with parents who are similar, and we share the same goals ... we are good for each other and we really straight and fought infrequently (BF raised his voice can be twice in two years .. I am the most passionate one) ... but I like it .. we talk about the next step in our relationship but now I wonder if children making a number ...
Our other children .. it seems that my children are always trying to attract his attention the children, his children roll their eyes, sigh and complain of nothing to do .. my kids bug her children - I know. is regarded by his children as a pain in the thigh. Her children did not have much experience with young children ... and my children have experience with older children ... My children are younger in the extended family, her children are almost all of his extended family .. BF made a huge effort to get their children active this week on vacation - but they still had their laptops, they still have turned around their time for their "attacks" on computers and they still locked into their own room (which I paid for!) and refused to let my children - except once every week .. then they complained that they do not want them there ... OK, so I am sure that my children stayed in our room .. I took my kids to boys their privacy and only time .. I understand that kids my age children are a little more for teenagers - but I have nieces and friends with older boys / nephews and it is rarely a problem.
After returning to the dining room, we let the children in advance .. He was not even two minutes later my daughter just screaming "they took all her clothes" - my son was in our room, stripped of her underwear because children of BF thought it was funny ... They took my clothes off children. . They do not pick on my daughter - she is a little harder and honestly would not tolerate it I feel. My son is much more sensitive - and they refer to him as a sissy and girly .. (Kidding). . sticks and BF to them, but sometimes BF Sayd well, your son has to grow a pair ... (Maybe not in those words .. but I kind of like my son is compassionate ..
Its more than that - m, children love to read, children's joke (the reading is for rich people) its boring I raise my children certainly aa.